i wanna make cookies with the love of my life in our little farmhouse while we dodge all our underfoot cats and do a terrible job of singing along to soft music
It’s gross as fuck to tell people that no one will love them until they love themselves. Loving yourself is hard. Listen: you are loved, you are worthy of love and respect, and you can be loved even on the days when you see nothing in yourself to love.
fun fact: trauma victims becoming obsessed/infatuated with what traumatized them (especially if that trauma came from abuse) isn’t creepy or disturbing. That’s literally a symptom of PTSD, and is often uncontrollable, so maybe don’t demonize people who get stuck or overly focused on their intrusive thoughts. We literally can’t control this.
“I think the experience gap between a 19 year old and a 35 year old is too large to result in a healthy romantic relationship without a power imbalance,” I say.
I pause.
“But of course I’d date a 3,000 year old shapeshifting dragon demi-god if the opportunity arose. Why do you ask?”
Large gaps in the first few years of young adulthood: eek… I recognize that you’re an adult and have a right to make your own decisions but please please please be cautious and think very critically about why your partner isn’t dating someone with more life under their belt, don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice enforcing your boundaries and remember your first obligation is to yourself
Large age gaps after several years of adult independence and self-discovery: use your best judgement, I might raise an eyebrow but I’ll trust you to know what you want and what works for you on an individual basis
Large age gaps when one partner is an ancient supernatural dragon god or some shit: 😎 YOLO don’t get et
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